I Survived: A man's perspective on domestic abuse - Action News 5 - Memphis, Tennessee

I Survived: A man's perspective on domestic abuse

Posted: Updated:

(WMC-TV) – Millions of men and women are assaulted each year in this country. And stalking is an even bigger problem than once thought.

About one in every 12 women has been a victim of stalking and one in every 45 men.

Dale Wells was shot five times by his ex-girlfriend. One of the bullets pulled from his body now hangs from a gold chain around his neck.

Here is his story - in his own words.

"And I turned to the right and I'm looking down the barrel of a 357 Magnum," said domestic violence survivor Dale Wells. "She said if I can't have you nobody can..."

"…bullet hit me in the chest…"

"The second one went through and shattered this arm in two places. I fell to my stomach, she walked up on me shot me twice in the back and then laid the barrel on the bridge of my neck."

Wells' ex-girlfriend had saved the last bullet for herself. She died, but he pulled through, he believes to tell us that love shouldn't hurt, and more importantly, to warn us to look for the telltale signs of abuse.

"One thing that stands out in my mind, she would come to my place of employment and she would sit at the counter."

"She would come if I got here at two she would come at two oh one, two oh five and stay my whole shift and we thought that was cute."

"But hindsight that was actually control. Domestic violence is about control"

"One day I was going to work and she didn't want me to go to work. She said I want you to stay home. If you don't I'm gonna kill your dog."

"I purchased this chicken sandwich for her.  The sandwich was not correct and the rage that came over her..."

"I can see the chicken sandwich going past my nose as she threw the chicken sandwich back in the window."

"Over a chicken sandwich."

"I had to have her removed from my home."

"She called me on March 15th, my birthday and asked me to come to the Motel 6."

"My phone rings and she says I'll be right down, and she says you're the luckiest man in the world.  I came here to kill you on your birthday and kill myself. She couldn't get the gun then."

"But I dismissed it because she was on her way back to New York."

"Three months later, hiding out in my neighbor's bushes trying to trick me to come outside."

"There's still three bullets inside of me right now."

"Love doesn't hurt. You have to pay attention to all the signs dealing with domestic violence. Love yourself enough to say enough is enough."

Help is available if you're in a violent relationship.

http://www.thehotline.org/

http://www.memphisfamilyshelter.org/

http://www.memphisywca.org/hotline-shelter/

http://www.safehorizon.org/index/get-help-8/for-domestic-violence-35.html?gclid=CNvhptXj4LMCFe5FMgodAAIAJg


Copyright 2012 WMC-TV. All rights reserved.

  • Most Popular StoriesMost Popular StoriesMore>>

  • April Mugshots

    April Mugshots

    Tuesday, April 15 2014 11:48 AM EDT2014-04-15 15:48:25 GMT
    James SiebenthalJames Siebenthal
    The following are mugshots and charges of individuals arrested between April 1-4 by the Sullivan County Sheriff's Office.More >>
    The following are mugshots and charges of individuals arrested between April 1-4 by the Sullivan County Sheriff's Office.More >>
  • 7-year-old girl writes book after mother's death

    7-year-old girl writes book after mother's death

    Friday, April 18 2014 8:31 AM EDT2014-04-18 12:31:56 GMT
    (WMC-TV) - Most 7-year-old girls are playing dress up and reading books, but one Mid-South girl is the exception—not just reading but writing books. Shiloh Sanders talked about the inspiration behind herMore >>
    Most 7-year-old girls are playing dress up and reading books, but one Mid-South girl is the exception—not just reading but writing books.More >>
  • Teen killed in crash after prom

    Teen killed in crash after prom

    Saturday, April 19 2014 3:47 PM EDT2014-04-19 19:47:48 GMT
    (WMC-TV) - A young man's life was taken too soon. It was supposed to be a high school memory of a lifetime for Andrew Archer, but prom night turned into a tragic night for his family and friends. His promMore >>
    It was supposed to be a high school memory of a lifetime for Andrew Archer, but prom night turned into a tragic night for his family and friends.More >>
Powered by WorldNow